Inhale, exhale

I have been observing my breathing all my life, but at first, only out of fear. It was mainly because of asthma and allergies. I was trying to force myself to breathe fully. Only then I was calm. Later, yoga led me to the same, but in a much more pleasant way. I learned to observe it in a relaxed state of mind and control it. Only then did it become clear to me that not only do I benefit from breathing in everyday shit, but my inhalation and exhalation also affect orgasm. 

We cannot do anything without breathing, but we take it for granted, something that is always present. And because it affects our entire body, its impact can also be felt during orgasm. There is nothing wrong with it, even if we do not breathe at that moment as we imagined, but conscious breathing could really improve the experience. Much has already been written about this in the Kamasutra, but the world has preferred to devote itself to the impossible gymnastic positions described in the same book. But if I go back to the breath, the breath is the source of life energy in yoga. By breathing during yoga practice, we control energy flow through the body. But it is not necessary to be a yogi or believe in a life energy theory. It is enough to try different breathing techniques, and you will see how your body reacts. One time, it warms us up; the next time, it calms us down. It is impossible that it doesn't have an effect on orgasm. 

Until recently, I also did not deal with breathing while masturbating. I was more busy with other things, with fantasies, with the position of my hands, sometimes with painful hips. Kind of like in life. When different feelings gather in a pile, breathing is the last thing that goes through my head. The experiment in bed was partly due to yoga and partly to OMGYes, which labeled the lungs as a sexual organ.

The first piece of advice, which is relatively reasonable but has its flaws, is to watch your breath during sex or masturbation. Probably three-quarters of people think this is an easy thing to do, but when they lie down in bed, different thoughts take over their heads, and their breath is lost; they find it too difficult. The vast majority also give up at this point. Focusing on the breath is initially an annoying and fucking difficult thing, which is quite logical since we have never dealt with it, let alone learned it. But focusing on your breath is like riding a bike; it eventually becomes an everyday thing.

The advice is accurate to some extent and is the first step towards a more experienced orgasm, but I would recommend one step before. Do this sometimes when you are just lying in bed, without any additional physical activity, and repeat this for a while before performing breath monitoring during bedtime exercise. Some then use this to avoid thinking about third things during sex, such as cooking or washing dishes. 

When you own it, you can try a variety of breathing techniques. People use their breath during sex or masturbation to focus on touch, to control orgasm time, to influence orgasm intensity, and to fully relax after it. The technique that is most natural and has been unknowingly used by almost everyone is the technique of holding your breath when an orgasm comes, and a long exhale during an orgasm. In this way, the orgasm should be much more enjoyable. Some people go a step further and hold their breath for quite a long time and only breathe when they orgasm.

Another technique that is much more difficult is to breathe slowly throughout masturbation or sex. Our breathing becomes faster during arousal, making it all the more difficult to breathe slowly on purpose. But it is possible. Such an orgasm is relaxing, and it is also used before bedtime. The technique of long inhales and exhales is also used by some to stay on the edge of orgasm for a long time. 

Once you have mastered your breath, you can try breathing together with your partner during sex. This means that you and your partner equate in breathing or, more romantically, breathe as if you are one. 

Not all techniques are listed above, of course, and I highly recommend not following them strictly as instructions for use. If you need to breathe fast, breathe fast; if slow breathing gets on your nerves and you start to get sleepy, don't do it. Our breathing is different during the day. One time, it is dictated by the body, the other time by our head. And our head doesn't always win. Perhaps the same breathing technique that has been successful countless times before will not give you what you want at some point. But when breathing, it's essential to persevere and try different things. Keep in mind that it takes time before you can fully observe the movement of the diaphragm and pelvic floor. And now, take a long inhale, an even longer exhale, and a jump into the sea of unknown pleasures!