Three times? Twice? Once?

Some people often brag about how many times they have had an orgasm in one evening. If the sex was great, the loudest ones say they experienced it as many as three. The more modest ones only once. Of course, women lead in counting orgasms, logically, as it is common knowledge that men find it harder to achieve multiple ones. But is sex really bad if we reach orgasm only once per night?

Today, many young people believe that sex is only good if you reach the big O. If this doesn't happen, sex is worth nothing. Similar thinking also had my generation. Male pornstars typically experienced a single orgasm, while women howled like wolves while faking countless and consecutive orgasms. As a result of watching porn movies, real-life people's appetites were high when it came to action. Man needs to reach only one but perfect orgasm, which will come at just the right moment, not too soon or too late, while a woman has to come several consecutive times. If you experienced the climax together, it was already on the verge of epic. 

If I would have the same mentality, I could say that all my sexual experiences have been bad. In the beginning, I was faking orgasms, and when I finally got to achieve the real one, there was mostly just that one. The men experienced it too soon if you ask me and then fell on their backs wholly worn out. I can count the orgasms I have experienced simultaneously with my partner on the fingers of one hand, a few seconds up or down. However, I can't really call all my sex experiences bad. 

It seemed more important to me to enjoy every step of the way - in tingling feeling between my legs, taking our clothes off, in foreplay, in the final act, and smoking after sex. The orgasm was just the icing on the cake—one, not two, not three.

Sometimes I am unable to experience two orgasms in a row. If the first one is strong, I am more like a man. I want to have peace and not let anything else going on around my peach - it is too sensitive for anything. Sure, I can continue in ten or fifteen minutes, but this is already a new process, a new act. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Rarely do I experience more orgasms during sex, but only if the initial fireworks are somehow not visible enough. Then I don't need any pause, and I can continue my way to the second and maybe to the third orgasm. This usually happens when I organize a naked Saturday, and I want to have sex from morning to night. Of course, with a few breaks for food and a good movie or series. Reaching three orgasms in a row, I feel like a real pornstar. In your face, Jenna Jameson!

Despite all the bedtime action, I don't measure the quality of sex by the experienced orgasms. Sometimes I want to have rabbit sex, a wild quickie, with me reaching an orgasm after just a few minutes. Other times, I enjoy extended foreplay and going slow - in that case, I am more focused on the good feeling rather than the big O. I can't write a recipe for good sex, and I certainly don't advocate the principle 'fewer orgasms - worse sex'. It's stupid and burdensome at the same time for both women and men. With that mentality, we are bringing pressure to our bedroom, where it really doesn't belong. Rather than counting orgasms, count your drops of pleasure. 

Wow, I think I just found my recipe for good sex - just relax and leave the worries behind you. Surrender to your partner and pleasure. Just let your brain capitulate for the sake of experiencing joy between wet sheets with a happy ending or not; it doesn't matter.