Millennials, please, have sex!

Sunday morning. After good stretching, achieving multiple orgasms, and walking the dog, I usually sit on my bike and drive to town for coffee. That's when I write, chat, read. To cut things short, I am having my alone time.

One rainy Sunday, I drank coffee and checked magazines. I usually just browse through and dream about what I'm going to cook that day. In the meantime, I checked Twitter and came across many comments about the interview with Jan Plestenjak (Slovenian singer) in one of the magazines. The article was nothing special, much ado about nothing. Jan is seeing a woman, but they are not exclusive; she comes and goes. Big deal.   (Slovenian singer) in one of the   magazines. The article was nothing special, much ado about nothing. Jan is seeing a woman, but they are not exclusive; she comes and goes. Big deal.

Since I just had the magazine in my hand, I left the article about Jan alone and focused on the ones about partnerships. In one of the many interviews, I was drawn to a phrase about millennials and their sexual abstinence. What? This can't be true; it is not possible. As humans, we had so many battles to finally start accepting sex and talking about it, and then my generation comes along and destroys everything?

"Millennials, also known as Generation Y (or simply Gen Y), are the demographic cohort following Generation X and preceding Generation Z. Researchers and popular media use the early 1980s as starting birth years and the mid-1990s to early 2000s as ending birth years."

According to many studies of sexual behavior, millennials have less sex than all generations before. Maybe we were surpassed even by a prehistoric man, but we were definitely beaten by our parents. If the numbers are correct, every eighth member of my generation is still a virgin at the age of twenty-six. Moreover, 60% of millennials avoid sex all the way to college. There is no more sex like we know from the American Pie movie.

The most common reasons are:

late marriage and lower rate of marriages among millennials,
living with parents,
accessibility of pornography and
the uptightness of the millennial generation.

When I first read these four lines, I agreed only with some, the ones I find myself in. Living with my parents seems to be the most torturous. You always live in dependence on someone else, without real privacy, caught in a cage of your parents' moral values. The hardest part is finding the perfect moment when you can bring someone into your own house. Usually, parents vacations bring joy to all young people, but it is not enough. You also need to have someone with whom you could share a bed and of course that they both have time for sex, precisely this one week a year. It is hard to find moments for sex during the rest of the year, especially if your parents are always at home. So you are doomed to have sex outdoors, in the car, or in the shopping center's toilet.

As a member of this generation, I can say that we are too uptight. We prefer to live behind screens and be socially and politically aware. We comment on Twitter, complain, and find it hard to actually hear someone else's opinion. Sex is completely devalued, irrelevant. Of course, a career and our own opinion, which we share across all social networks, give us strength. It's hard to talk in person, and it's even harder to open up. How are you supposed to have sex then? On the social media?

We also find it harder to connect, at least if I conclude from myself. We live in our own bubbles, and this bubble represents our reality. We are confident and loud on social media, but in fact, we remain shy and reserved. Besides that, we women have become more assertive, louder, and healthier. What about men? In my experience, these have become a bit more feminine. Not everyone, though. However, the difference is noticeable when you compare freshmen in college today or fifteen years ago.We also find it harder to connect, at least if I conclude from myself. We live in our own bubbles, and this bubble represents our reality. We are confident and loud on social media, but in fact, we remain shy and reserved. Besides that, we women have become more assertive, louder, and healthier. What about men? In my experience, these have become a bit more feminine. Not everyone, though. However, the difference is noticeable when you compare freshmen in college today or fifteen years ago.

Pornography? I do not know. It is true that it is easier for us to access porn online than previous generations and that some have developed a real addiction to sex on screen. I find it hard to judge because it worked the exact opposite for me. I wanted to try everything that took place on the screen, in person.

At this point, I'm also not quite sure what a late marriage has to do with sex. It is essential for religious persons, but compared to previous generations, many people go to church and have sex even before or without marriage.

Someone with my attitude towards sex finds it hard to admit that this is happening to us, millennials. Considering the studies, we are in a real sexual crisis; we are in a deep shit. And come to think of it, I really have some former classmates who aren't interested in sex and don't need it. So, dear fellow sufferers, look a little around you, find a person to share a computer and a bed with. In the meantime, don't forget about sex; it's something extraordinary.

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