Silence is golden

Sex - taboo topic of the XXI. century

At first glance, no one likes sex. Our parents, children, and even less our friends do not want to hear about it. "It's an intimate thing; it doesn't concern anyone. Therefore, such conversations must remain in the bedroom." But, should it really be that way? Should sex really be only a couples thing, or do we just need an excuse because we are too ashamed to talk about it?

At thirteen, I received a Book for Girls from my family as a New Year's gift. It was in a package along with a Book for Boys that was meant for my cousin. Twelve eyes observed us closely while happily tearing the paper and thinking that we would receive another good toy, such as Furby. The grandparents turned away when they saw what we were getting, and the parents laughed at our confused looks and blushes. "So you will know how to do it," they were saying. I guess the Book for Boys ended up somewhere at the bottom of the closet, and the Book for Girls piqued my interest.

Those pages opened up a whole new world for me; I was only missing the pictures. It contained the information on putting on a condom, what gonorrhea is, all about falling and being in love. This was a period when the images of sexual intercourse in a biology book excited me so much that I had to watch them every day. I imagined how this is done and how one has to feel about it. In doing so, my golden "book for girls" filled in the gaps with various interesting facts.

Over the years, I learned a lot, and things that sounded like science fiction in my early teens were becoming real and surprisingly normal. However, I didn't want to talk to friends about sex because they were all embarrassed if I said or asked anything. I felt like a sexual pervert. I was ashamed when I proudly mentioned to a friend that I was using toys.

"How can you? I would never push plastic dick to the hole down there!"

And there have been more and more similar responses. I have found that there is simply no room for sex in my circle of close friends. There was no room for it in a society that grew up under the significant influence of pornography. So I decided to shut up and start listening to others.

While taking coffee with female friends, I've found that some people are afraid of sex or not interested in it, let alone masturbating or playing with erotic toys. Sex is a weapon with which a man is obtained and forgotten, if not earlier, then when the children come. Sexual awareness is indeed growing among women, but at the same time, they forget that sex is their privilege, pure pleasure and serves not only to satisfy their partner but primarily to satisfy their own needs. More selfish than sex is just masturbation, and rightly so. In our everyday life, full of compromises, it is crucial to be a little bit selfish, at least in our own sexuality.

Lack of conversations about sex was the main reason for writing the blog. To talk about sexuality and my opinion about sex after so many years. I am writing about awkward adventures, misconceptions, shame, incredible orgasms, and the importance of letting your partner know what you want. I experienced and felt all this. And I still face difficulty communicating about these things, especially on social networks.

I am writing articles about sex, and I review sex toys. I am doing it to facilitate the decision of others when choosing during the flood of vibrators on the market, to show that sex is something that the majority of the population is practicing. To reach as many people as possible, I opened user accounts on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook as quickly as possible. But here, it all stopped. Facebook, in particular, gets hives when the word erotic toy is mentioned. It's even worse if you want to link your website to a Facebook page and advertise it there. Since the Book of Faces only allows the promotion of erotic aids to alleviate health problems (Sounds familiar?Sounds familiar?), I fell at the first hurdle when posting ads.

Instagram is another thorn in the side of many who post aesthetic erotic photos. Besides not allowing the advertising of nude pictures, just like Facebook, they have taken a step further. Users, be they businessmen or individuals, must cover their nipples and genitals with various signs in the photos. Pardon my French, but how "fucking stupid"! We all know what the stars overlap, and it could really be an aesthetic photo, but instead, we are looking at laughing mushrooms dance instead of nipples.

I understand that it is undesirable to post pornography on a social network that is already accessible to thirteen-year-olds. Still, I do not know how underwear advertisements may be allowed on the same network. For example, pictured in this ad are a bed, a gorgeous female body, and see-through erotic lingerie. In all likelihood, women will not wear that product to walk to the store or work but will use it on special occasions like having sex.

From the sour smile when I first picked up the book for girls to laughing aloud what was prohibited a century ago, I believed that sex and masturbation are not taboo topics today. What followed, however, was a cold shower realizing that in the XXI. century only slightly changed the view of sex toys, but masturbation and sexuality remain hidden somewhere deep within us.